Put the spark back into your relatioship

We’re all GUILTY – Once the first flush of romance has passed, all relationships lose their sparkle and passion and if you don’t do something about it, you can easily become strangers and problems can surface.

A relationship, like anything else you want to last, requires attention, work and regular maintenance. Imagine buying a car, driving it off the forecourt and never checking or changing the oil, filling it up with petrol, or getting regular services. You’re not going to get too far and it’s certainly not going to last you as long as it could.

Relationships really are no different. They need a daily effort if you want to be in it for the long haul and it’s the little things that make huge impacts, so here are some things you can do to reconnect with each other and put some spark back into your relationship today and everyday………….

First date – Re-create your first date. Think back to where you went, what movie you saw, what meal you ate. Then re-create it. It’s fun to take a trip down memory lane and have all the excitement and feelings coming flooding back.

Show affection – Hold hands, hug, and kiss or just put your arm around him/her. There is a lot to be said for the healing power of touch. Try a back rub, footsie under the table whatever you like just make a point of having physical contact each and everyday.

Kissing is one of the most intimate things you can do with your clothes on and will help to maintain and build up the romantic bond between you.

Communicate – Personally, I think this one is the key to any relationship. Just talk and listen to each other. Discuss your dreams and hopes for the future, your fears and what you most look forward to. Turn off the TV and just chat. Talk about stuff that you both like – films, books, cooking, gardening, DIY, anything as long as you talk. Communication is one of the biggest parts of a relationship and not talking will cause you problems.

Go Away Together – Sometimes, it takes some distance and time together to remind you how much you love and enjoy each other’s company. Get someone to look after the kids and get away for a night or weekend, where you can just do fun things together that you can never do at home.

Date Night – Pick a night this week to go out on date. Whether it’s dinner and a movie or just a couple of drinks after work followed by a walk in the park, the point is to have time alone together to reconnect. Take turns planning a special evening each week, make it a competition.

To add a little twist arrange to meet somewhere, arrive separately, and then pretend it’s the first time you’ve been out together. Find out about each other all over again. This will remind you what you used to see in each other.

Massage – Book a couples massage at a local day spa. This can be especially invigorating after a long stressful week and set the tone for a relaxing weekend.

Say ‘I love you’ – Those three words are often forgotten as relationships progress, but, said properly, they mean so much. In fact, you don’t even need to say them, send a text or email and say it.

Say ‘Thank You’ – We show gratitude to strangers and people we work with all the time, but it’s easy to forget to do the same for our partners. A small gesture of thanks, whether it’s saying thank you for emptying the cat litter, cooking a nice meal or just for being there goes an awfully long way.

Make time – We all have busy lives and even evenings can be taken up with lots of chores or work. So try to spend just 10 minutes alone together every day to find out what each of you have been up to.

Leave notes for each other – Get a pack of sticky notes and write little messages you can leave where your loved one will find them. We’re not talking about ones that say: ‘Remember to take the bins out’!

Flowers – Think of her favourite flowers from time to time and give them to her “just because”.

Forget the past – This means silly arguments or things where one of you may have done or said something they now regret. Move forward and concentrate on your future together. By harbouring resentment, you will never be able to move on with your relationship.

Taking time each day to work on your relationship, even in the smallest way, will make for a happy and lasting one. 

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